Do Not Be A False Witness
When we speak, we don’t just throw words into a vacuum—they are always delivered into an atmosphere. Most often, we can create the atmosphere we want for how our words will land. Our sages remind us again and again that the framework matters as much as the content.
In the Talmud, Berakhot 7a, Rabbi Yochanan teaches in the name of Rabbi Shimon bar Yochai: “A person should not try to appease another in the time of their anger.” Words spoken at the wrong time, even with the best intentions, cannot be heard.
Proverbs, Mishlei 15:23, puts it beautifully: “A word spoken at the right time—how good it is!” Wisdom is not only knowing what to say, but when and how to say it.
Maimonides, Hilchot De’ot 6:7, goes even further. He teaches that when one must offer rebuke, it should be done privately, gently, and with clear care. The mitzvah is not only to speak the truth, but to make sure the truth can be received.
Speech is not an isolated act. It is relational. The success of our words depends on the atmosphere into which they are delivered—timing, setting, tone, and intention.
Each day this week, before you speak—whether to your family, community, or even to yourself—pause to ask: Am I creating the atmosphere needed for what I am about to say?
Set your intention for the day by reciting The Aseret Affirmation: Ten for Ten first thing in the morning.
Wishing you safety and strength,
Nitzan Bergman