I find myself amazed by the concept of geneivas da’at — the theft of the mind or deception — and how it broadens the idea of theft beyond just physical things. It means taking something intangible: respect, honor, gratitude, or even a good impression from someone, through deceit.
Take the subtle act of inviting someone to a meal while knowing they won’t be able to come. On the surface, it seems harmless, but really stealing their appreciation. This makes me realize how far-reaching our sensitivity to theft is — it’s about respecting every aspect of a person’s dignity and autonomy, even the intangible parts.
At Aseret, we have this beautiful approach: for every negative, find its positive opposite. So if geneivas da’at is stealing or deceiving someone’s mind, then the opposite is enhancing their good impressions legitimately.
If the opposite of theft is giving tzedaka — sharing our wealth with others — then the opposite of deceiving someone to gain unearned appreciation, respect, or honor is freely giving them legitimate appreciation, respect, and honor. A sincere compliment builds up others authenticly.
This is a profound, practical way to live in alignment with “Do not Steal.”
Each day this week, intentionally offer one sincere, specific compliment or word of appreciation to someone you encounter — whether a family member, friend, colleague, or even a stranger.
Make sure it’s genuine and thoughtful, something that highlights a real positive quality or effort you noticed.
Set your intention for the day by reciting The Aseret Affirmation: Ten for Ten first thing in the morning.
Wishing you safety and strength,
Nitzan Bergman